I Wont Ask You Again Sign Language

I received a call yesterday that I let become straight to voicemail. It was from a company I had been interviewing with for several weeks, and I was expecting either a rejection e-mail or a phone phone call informing me of next steps moving forward. I looked at the unopened voicemail like a souvenir that I was waiting all afternoon to unwrap.

Eventually I got a coffee, got comfy, and listened to the inevitable good news. Instead information technology was the HR recruiter request me to call her. Even meliorate, I'd become to make arrangements on the phone. Surprisingly, though, when I called her I was informed that "unfortunately" my application was no longer existence considered.

It threw me through a loop. Who calls to give a rejection? It felt against protocol, and cruel somehow, fifty-fifty though I loved the woman and her 18-carat sympathy.

Just was a phone call against protocol? What's the alternative? Is a grade electronic mail later on weeks (or in some cases, months) better than a personalized rejection? And if and so, does the actual language within make any departure on how crummy it feels to be rejected?

there's typically just i judgement laying out the cold, hard truth: you've been rejected

To find out I collected the activeness statements from the final batch of rejection emails I've received over time. When you scrub away the bromides of thanking the applicant for her resume, explaining how impressed the company is with her experience, and promising to be in bear upon should another task come up (I've never, ever received such follow-up in 20yrs of jobs), there's typically just i sentence laying out the cold, difficult truth: you've been rejected.

Rejection statements tend to autumn into the post-obit categories:

Fit

By far the most pop sentiment utilized in rejection emails is the nebulous specter of "fit," the be-all-end-all to hiring decisions worldwide. I'm convinced that the bulk of people (approximately 100%) in charge of hiring don't practice enough diligence to comprehensively ascertain their task needs, learn about their candidates, and see potential instead of past feel but. Instead, they "know it when they see it" AKA look for "fit."

Here are some of the action statements I've received related to fit:

• It looks similar this role would not be the best fit for your talents, merely know we are continually calculation to our earth class team and that our door is always open for you to explore other opportunities.
• You take a great background but unfortunately, nosotros've decided to motion forrad with other candidates who more closely friction match the requirements of the office.
• We have had a chance to review your application in consideration for the role, and while your skills and feel are impressive, they are not the right fit at this time.
• At the present time, there are other candidates whose qualifications more closely match the requirements for this position and nosotros will be moving forward with them in the recruiting procedure.
• Nosotros appreciate your interest; however, we are currently pursuing other candidates whose background and skills more closely fit our current needs.
• Our team has reviewed your application and we've carefully decided to motion forrad with other candidates who we experience more closely match the unique requirements for the position.
• Based on your application, this role wasn't a great fit.

To be honest, information technology'south difficult to debate against fit. If there's a moral, humane fashion to reject someone it's more than than likely on the claim of fit. That existence said, such rejections should be followed upwardly (upon request) with specific reasons why there wasn't a fit (later all I once lost a job because I was told I wasn't a adept "fit" AKA "we need an excuse to shed money off our team's upkeep.")

Notwithstanding, "fit" more than likely is the most appropriate language to use in a rejection. And yet, many companies apply other terms instead.

Unfortunately

Many rejection letters note how unfortunate information technology is that an bidder is being rejected. It'due south never quite clear if information technology'due south more unfortunate for the visitor or the bidder, but information technology'south articulate that the inclusion of the term is meant to imbue some human sentiment akin to empathy within the stark constraints of boilerplate language:

• Unfortunately, after careful consideration, nosotros have determined that our current position is not ideally suited to your talents, experience, and qualifications.
• We reviewed your resume and unfortunately have decided to move forward with other candidates for the role.
• Unfortunately, we are unable to offer y'all a function at this time.

Regret

Unfortunately's sibling is "regret," the company's admission that, hey, we really don't desire to accept to do this, merely it'due south our task. We truly regret having to carry out this function of our jobs, but here it is:

• After careful consideration, we regret to inform you lot that you have non been selected to interview for this position.
• After careful consideration and representative of a very competitive marketplace, we regret to inform you that nosotros are unable to move you lot forward in the process.
• We have reviewed your application and we regret to inform you that information technology has not been selected for further consideration.
• After careful consideration, we regret to inform you that you have not been selected for this position.

It's worth noting that each instance of regret I received in rejection was prefaced by an assurance that the company carefully considered my materials. This clause is undoubtedly included to testify the applicant that due process was carried out, and that the applicant is existence rejected but after her materials were analyzed and compared to the job description in question. Maybe it'due south considering of this process (and applicants are led to believe, the hours spent conducting it) that the regret is meant to acquit more than weight.

Closed

Sometimes a rejection notice doesn't even officially reject an bidder and so much equally tell her that there's no longer a job to apply to. Information technology was all in illusion the email seems to imply, and if someone else got in before the chore was "airtight" information technology was no doubt only due to some Indiana Jones style last minute scramble (don't forget your hat!)

• We wanted to let you know that the position you lot practical to has either been filled with another candidate or closed.
• I am writing to permit you know that unfortunately the role has closed.

Oddly, hearing that a position has "airtight" somehow e'er makes me feel better. For me it really is a "regretful" and "unfortunate" action, since I e'er assume that they were carefully reviewing my materials--merely on the cusp of calling me in--before funding was cutting or the visitor went under. The part has closed, it'southward nobody'due south fault, we're all quite torn up nearly information technology.

Passive - Aggressive

My true favorite rejections, though, fall into two camps: ones that are then direct, and so condescending, that yous almost take to respect their audacity (or arrogance); and ones that are so passive that it seems like even they don't know how the conclusion was made: information technology just sort of happened. Passive and/or ambitious rejections are two sides of the same edgeless coin, flipped to an applicant equally consolation bus fair. Don't spend it all in one identify, kid.

• We accept reviewed your background and qualifications, and are lamentable to let y'all know that we will non be considering yous further for this function.

The statement higher up is actually muted a bit by the inclusion of "sorry." But brand no mistake, this is a blatant rejection. As well, considering that there were none of the typical bromides (due east.g. you're great, we'll be in touch, etc.) accompanying this statement, they may as well just have emailed "No, thank you."

But it's the passive ones that delight me like no other:

• After careful consideration of your application, we have concluded that we cannot continue with your candidacy for the position at this time.
• In the spirit of transparency, we wanted to let you know that we take had a number of qualified applicants and we won't be able to go along with your candidacy at this fourth dimension.

These rejections point to mysterious forces of nature that are preventing them from doing what they would otherwise similar to do (namely, hire the bidder.) "Nosotros take ended that we cannot proceed" sounds like an announcement fabricated by a gate agent after a flight has been delayed for hours only to finally be cancelled. While "we won't be able to continue" is verbatim what I've repeated to my wife after our daughters take thrown yet another tantrum on the way to the playground. Beloved, I know we've just gone two blocks, but I won't be able to proceed.

The power of language

There are no easy answers to rejecting candidates. Specially for roles that receive hundreds (if not thousands) of applications, there's little more that can be done than run the resumes through an AI-fueled database and cantankerous your fingers that simply the correct candidates popular out. And rejection sucks no thing how you cut it, even if for every qualified candidate at that place are ten who are unqualified: they all go the aforementioned email.

My only hope for Hour managers, and hiring managers, worldwide is that rejection can be handled with speed and an empathy commensurate to the amount of time the applicant has put into her application and/or interviews. A pray-and-spray resume driblet on a search site deserves a lot less attention than a candidate who has gone through multiple rounds of phone calls and in-person interviews.

But make no error: the language we use matters, and language--more than anything else, including "fit"--is a reflection of culture. Unlike the passive rejections highlighted above, rejection messages don't but happen. They are written and canonical. It would exist my hope that the wording that goes into any rejection letter receives the same amount of attention and intendance that an initial task find does. Given, though, that even many task calls tin exist haphazardly cobbled together (request for everything and nothing simultaneously), possibly that'south not asking a whole lot.

Still, given that many jobs don't ever write anything after a rejection, whatever language--every bit long as it's direct and supportive--is better than none at all. Rejection sucks, but it's also the first step toward eventual acceptance.

Chris Gerben is a digital strategist and content producer. Though he's a reluctant collector of rejection statements, he'd much rather receive a job offer. Desire to hire him? Allow'southward talk in the first person!

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